NSU Writers: What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger

By Pryce Curry, NSU Student

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For 15 years of my life, I have lived with a split family. I often wonder what happened, and question who is to blame. I was only three when my parents decided to split and I have never understood why it had to happen to my family. I just want to know what it is like to be a part of a real family. Though this has been a huge set back in my life, I feel that I am stronger now because of it. I believe the effects of divorce have not only changed me as a person, but have made me stronger.

Growing up there was always constant arguing between my parents even though they were split. They did it over the phone a lot, but sometimes they would do it in public and it would be very embarrassing. Whether it be who was picking up me and my sister from school, or when was the child support check coming in. It was always an argument. Seeing my parents argue made me very uncomfortable and sad. As a young boy, I just wanted to see them happy and love each other. But I was too young to understand the situations. I would ask my Mom and dad why they argued all the time and they wouldn’t even acknowledge the question. On the weekend’s I would always go to my Grandparents. My Grandpa has been and always will be my rock. He would always put up old home videos of us as babies and in diapers. While watching those videos felt as if I were in them. Then reality hits and its back to the seeing what actually goes on now. As a child, I just wanted to know why mommy and daddy hated each other.

Overcoming the whole divorce has never been easy. It has been a challenge in my everyday life, but it also has made me realize what not to do with a family. A family always sticks together through thick and thin. And I have promised myself that I will never put my children through what I experienced in my childhood. All I wanted in my life was a happy family, and I get the chance to have one of those one day. Even though I never got what I wanted with my family, I kept my head held high and pushed through the bad times. The only way I could keep negativity out of my life was to always think positive, and think in my head things no matter what happens, they will get better. Although this valley in life has been very rough and rugged at times I had to push through. Not just for myself, but for my family. My family is my everything and they always will be. I believe the effects of divorce have not changed me as a person but have made me stronger.